Are There Too Many "Rules" on Some of the Yahoo Groups?

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What do you think? Am I the only one who has a problem keeping up with The Rules? I don't know why it's so hard, but it does seem as if every Yahoo group has its own specific rules and they're all very different.
My problem is that many of them say "No flyby" posting. Stick around to answer questions, chat, etc. Ladies, I feel like I live my life in flyby mode! With a full time and demanding job, a husband, numerous grandkids who are usually at my house (probably fighting or raiding the fridge) a Retirement Home for my mom that calls me almost daily to come and check on her, and oh yeah, there's that writing thing I do on the side--who has time?
And the other rules about who can post when...they're all different for each site, and some of them have rules posted right on the front page, but with others you have to search around the site.
I have some promo I want to do, and turn to my groups for support, yet sometimes I feel like a hunter stalking a lion. I creep around in the bushes, loaded promo in hand, then finally venture out into the open to post. That's usually when I get my throat torn out for posting on a day that was for Something Else.
Isn't there some way to make this easier? Like the same rules for every site? I know I'm not the only one who has this problem, because some of my friends have said they've stopped posting on the loops altogether because they're tired of having their hands slapped when they break a rule. Most of them just post on Facebook.
I really enjoy reading the postings on the groups, and of course, not all of them are guilty of being quite so rigid.
What do you think? Do THE RULES just get in the way?